"by planning for the future, you won't need to lose yourself
in the future. The question is, are you using time on a practical level, or are
you losing yourself in the future? If you think that when you take a vacation,
or find the ideal partner, or get a better job or a nicer place to live or
whatever it is, then you will finally be happy, that's when you lose yourself
in the future. It's a continuous mental projection away from the now. That's
the difference between clock time, which has its place in this world, and
psychological time, which is the continuous obsession with the past and the
future."A more simple quote I love from him is "“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.”
I am constantly letting myself get lost in my future and it is only making me exhausted. If only I can make it to next year I will be fully licensed and then I will make enough money, then we will be ready for kids (your biological clock is ticking)... (side note: adoption is very close to my heart but that is another story/another post). And the inner dialogue continues- but we need a house first, then I will start cooking meals (seriously one day I will start cooking regularly) ... see how exhausting this is? I want to work on focusing on where I am now. And actually enjoy where I am in my life now. I am working hard towards a career I love and I should be proud of myself for managing (or sort of handling) the challenges with this career choice. I am enjoying being married. I love our little apartment and the memories I've made with my husband in it. Now that doesn't mean I won't plan and move toward future goals that I want. But I need to slow down and go at my own pace. I need to enjoy the ride as they say. Which I'm finding is way easier said than done.
I think we all ask ourselves "What do I need to be content?" and "What would make my life just right?" And the answer is most likely "if I can just get to this point" or "if I can just reach this goal." Your answer to these questions will also probably continually change. But I'm learning that if we try to stay more attuned to our present choices and our present life we will be more satisfied. Of course it is important to work toward future life goals and we have to figure out how to accomplish those goals and figure out "is this even possible?" If it's not meant to be we have to work really hard to find other ways (other passions, other options) to find fulfillment. I'm hoping to listen more to myself and trust that I am right where I'm supposed to be today.

As you know... I am NOT good at this be where you are stuff... but I DO like a saying that Aunt Kris loves and it is "Bloom where you are Planted". The whole it's the journey, not the destination thing... I gotta work on it!
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